Lessons to be learned and to teach
filed in Raising Teenagers on Feb.14, 2009
As my daughter, my firstborn, prepares for college, I thought I’d make a list of things I’d love for her to learn while she is away. These are all attainable and will probably be learned very quickly!
1.) The shower doesn’t clean itself. There’s no magic fairy that comes in and scrubs the scum or washes the hairs out of there. Yes, you’ll have to do this yourself. I’ll buy you your very own plunger too! OH! and the bathroom garbage? That needs to be emptied. (Sorry, no little fairy for that either my dear) You’ll know the exact time it needs emptying when you throw something into the can and it falls off the top and onto the floor. It’s a bitch picking up peoples snot rags and dirty Q-Tips and bandaids and such off the floor….so you’ll probably learn to empty, pretty quickly.
2.) You’ll learn that while washing dishes really sucks, it even sucks more when you have to scrape leftover bits of food (i.e. cereal) stuck to the sides of the bowl. So stuck that you have to pry it off. You’ll learn finally to scoop the extra morsels into the garbage, before placing the used plate/bowl into the sink.
3.) Bathroom time. Ahhhh. This one makes me smile. You’ll have to learn to SHARE the bathroom. No more hogging the mirror or staying in there putting on makeup with the door closed, with a line of people standing their holding their ‘areas’ and jumping up and down. (SHARE: To use jointly or in common)
4.) Cooking. Yes, you are capable of making misc dishes, I know. You are actually good at that. But you will no longer be able to come in with a whirlwind asking, “What’s for dinner? Are you making dinner…and when…because I have to go to work!” OH! And you’ll have to keep your own stock of food. It’s very hard to make a meal if you didn’t buy the ingredients.
5.) You’ll find out that when you leave something your stuff the floor like you live in a pigsty don’t put something away, you will only have your own set of eyes to look for it, rather than 4 other sets of eyes. I’m guessing that once it sets in that your living room, bedroom and kitchen is all actually the SAME room, maybe you’ll be picking up your stuff! Oh! and if you need to drink from a glass, you’ll wish you’d have washed one of the 12 laying around looking like a science experiment is growing inside.
6.) This one may be rough, but you may learn that if you run your mouth and treat your roommates with a bad attitude, you may just get put in your place. Maybe physically, maybe verbally. It may hurt, but it is a lesson you may benefit from in the long run. Poor thing.
And yes, there are things your roommate(s) will be able to learn from you, because after all you are a great teacher!
1.) They will learn to do laundry! It has been a blessing that you have done this task since you were like 10!
2.) They will learn to be bold and speak up for what they believe in! My very own Joan of Arc!
3.) You’ll teach your new friends that anything is possible and hard work really does pay off!
4.) They will definitely learn independence. They make pick up the idea that karma is a bitch and that you don’t appreciate fakes and liars, or people who mistreat others. I really like that about you.
5.) They will learn about true friendship, as you know what friendship truly means. That you’ll keep healthy friendships and discard the unhealthy. Great quality, by the way.
6.) Finally, I hope they pick up on your infectious laugh and wonderful sense of humor. We all need some of that.
Funny, I’m not really too worried about you going off to college. I think you’ll learn what you need to, academically and as a person. And I’m sure you’ll do the right things, and the wrong things…but you have a good head on your shoulders and should come out just fine. Teach and be taught.











February 14th, 2009 on 8:47 am
Great list! Is there any way to teach my husband these things, It seems that I’m the only one who will take out the garbage. He’ll squish it down until it can’t be squished anymore, then use a different garbage just so he does have to get rid of it. Like a grown teenager!
Sounds like your daughter is as ready as any teenager heading off to college. She’ll be fine, but what about mom?
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February 14th, 2009 at 10:04 am
Oh, I’m good. No anxiety. (yet)
February 14th, 2009 on 9:10 am
What a wonderful list!
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February 14th, 2009 on 9:27 am
Love this post. How it started but especially how you ended it. It’s a big big world out there and there’s only so much we can do as parents. We just have to hope we’ve set up a good foundation for them to build on. Your daughter should be proud to have you as her teacher and a mom.
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February 14th, 2009 on 9:48 am
Yeah…good luck with that
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February 14th, 2009 on 9:49 am
Beautiful post and lots of great advice!!
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February 14th, 2009 on 9:49 am
Did she read this? What did she say?
Very nice.
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February 14th, 2009 at 10:02 am
She’s working. But she pokes around my blog when she gets home. I won’t tell her it’s here, I’ll let her ‘discover it’. lol
February 14th, 2009 on 10:00 am
Wow! You sound really at ease!! I cannot believe how fast the time goes by…
I hope she learns all of those lessons and more. And that they don’t hurt any worse than they need to!
February 14th, 2009 on 10:05 am
My husband still thinks there is a magic fairy.
Your daughter sounds like she will do just fine!! I hope you’ll be okay too.
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February 14th, 2009 on 10:34 am
Both of my older kids are in college, daughter is senior, son is sophomore. Son still lives in dorm and eats in dining halls. Daughter is in an apartment with two other girls. All of the lessons you spoke of in this post she has learned. She is now really into learning how to cook real meals and budget for groceries. The three of them live on $75 a week for food! She is a hard worker and good student. I wish she hadn’t been in such a hurry to leave the dorm life because we all, as adults, know that you will pay bills the rest of your life–why not stay a student as long as you’re an undergrad? Great post.
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February 14th, 2009 on 7:17 pm
What a great list! Do you think you can send a copy to my hubby?
I wish her the best of luck!
February 15th, 2009 on 6:24 am
What was your mood when you wrote this? Were you trying to hold back tears because your baby is going to college? I sure would be so sentimental when that time comes but will still would like to manage to write a very useful list like this!
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February 15th, 2009 on 7:16 am
Great post! Funny and poignant.
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February 15th, 2009 on 4:31 pm
I think most of these lessons are going to smack my two seniors in the face next year too!
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February 17th, 2009 on 11:49 am
Mama, it sounds like you’ve given her a great foundation for wonderful things ahead. I think the list I’ll make for Kelly in 11 years will look pretty-much like this one!
xo
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February 18th, 2009 on 10:52 am
This is great! My oldest daughter is a junior and I’m starting the “you’ll need to know this when you don’t live at home anymore” mantra…. Thanks!
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