A famous young starlet gets beat to a pulp, the story goes public and she GOES BACK to him? Forgives him? Oh. My God. Parents of young girls & boys need to educate their children, NOW!
And since the media is playing the Rhianna/Chris Brown saga on a daily basis, parents need to take the opportunity to imbed in their childrens’ minds (girls AND boys), that it is unacceptable and WRONG. The hitting is wrong, and more importantly, to make sure their child knows ‘their worth’. I mean for heaven’s sake, parents instill in their young children the whole ‘stranger danger thing’, and ‘about touching’, etc etc….why on Earth does that conversation end at the teen years? Why?
I’m astonished and disturbed to hear some women saying, “She must have done something to get beat, we’re not hearing the full story”, or even , “If she hit him, she should get hit back”. SAY WHAT?
How were these woman raised? What is happening in the home and in society that women feel the need to justify a brutal attack on another woman or themselves? How in the WORLD does a woman of any age think that if you hit a man, you should be prepared for what will follow? I’m not saying that a woman has the right to hit a man. But if she slapped a man across the face, and he beat her to pulp in return….that is tantamount to throwing a stone at someone and being shot 150 times in return.
I was SO disturbed when the reports first came out that Rhianna was ‘forgiving’ her attacker…that she ‘wanted to reconcil’ and ‘didn’t want him to be punished’ for nearly killing her. I sat there with my mouth hanging open. Here’s this beautiful, ‘seemingly’ intelligent young woman, who appeared to be a strong female. My kids and I watched the reconciliation story and all I could say in return was “She’ll be dead in a year. She’s going to take him back and he’ll beat her to death next time”.
Then of course we had the whole discussion about how violence is never acceptable and that the fact is, that once someone hits you they’ll keep hitting you. And that someone doesn’t generally beat someone to a pulp the first time they ‘beat someone’….that normally they ‘work their way’ to that point, over time. (That Rhianna most certainly has been hit by him in the past and did nothing about it. ~ Obviously all the money in the world can’t buy self worth!)
I’ve told my girls that if a guy laid a hand on them once, they’ll do it over and over. And no matter how much you think you love them, it’s never a healthy situation. Getting out right away is the only way to prevent a repeat in the future.
Girls/Women of the world….STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! LOVE yourself and RESPECT yourself! Mothers need to live the example to their children or their kids are gonna wind up in the same situation! And mothers need to raise their sons in the same way! I just don’t get it! Why are people so lax in raising their kids now a days? Where is the common sense of some parents these days? The line of thinking is disturbing. (In teens and adults of both sexes. )
And of course this is yet another ‘fine example’ of young stars and their whole ‘role model’ status. First off , none of these people, these singers, athletes, actors, etc should ever be role models. My Lord! But since they end up being role models in the eyes of many kids…parents must, must, must recognize when their kid idolizes someone. And when something goes awry in that ‘role models’ life…parents must step in and parent! Who on EARTH would find it acceptable for their child to have a role model that was willing to accept a beating like Rhianna did?
Okay. Off my soapbox. I feel dizzy now.
I'm Sheila. In addition to raising 1 husband and 3 teens, I've founded 
