A final goodbye.
filed in Uncategorized on May.14, 2009
Sometimes I get that jolt of reality from the universe that makes me stop and ponder. I received one of those a couple days ago when a neighbor of mine (who we had spoke to just the day before), called paramedics for difficulty breathing in the morning…and by mid afternoon….lay unexpectedly in a hospice…clutching to the last frayed edges of life, waiting on his beloved wife to make it there and bid goodbye. He loved her so much that he waited for many hours for her to arrive….as she frantically tried to get back here. You see, she had taken a trip to visit family out of state, and getting back home would now become the longest journey in her life.
Anyhow, as I sat waiting for word…watching ’24′ on tv, I couldn’t help but think about how wrapped up we are in our every day lives…the minutia of it all. And I began to wonder about how many people at that very minute were grieving or starving or suffering. Here I was sitting there, eating a rice cake and enjoying my show in my everyday life…while my neighbor was desperately clinging to life. And his wife….desperately making her way home. I began to really think about the ensemble of life…yet how we are all living so differently in the same exact moment. Life is amazing. And sometimes the reality of it all just grabs ya.
As with most people I’ve met, I learned something from this man, my neighbor. I learned that I can push through anything even when life seems an uphill battle (he had lung cancer). To watch him out there with oxygen tank in tow, doing yard work and laughing with his grandchildren…every day a struggle but every day a joy. Knowing that his life would eventually be cut short, but enjoying the love and laughter of his wife, children and grandchildren. A lesson well received. I’ll miss him.
He passed away quietly among loved ones. His wife made it to share in his last hours. Until they meet again, I’m sure they’ll share their love in dreams and spirit and the gentle breeze of a warm summer day.











May 14th, 2009 on 6:22 am
It puts it all in perspective doesn’t it? I’m glad his wife was able to make it to his side in time, but sorry she had to make such a trip at all.
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May 14th, 2009 on 8:28 am
life IS amazing. i find these moments more and more as a parent. for sara and i..creating life made us think about death. maybe it’s the protective parental instinct at play. whatever it is….i wish more people felt it. the world would be a better place.
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May 14th, 2009 on 9:01 am
That is sad. We never know how long our time will be on this earth. My thoughts and prayers go out to your neighbor’s family.
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May 14th, 2009 on 9:44 am
It just takes one small moment to make you think, doesn’t it? I’m sorry for the loss of your neighbor. His family will be in my prayers.
May 14th, 2009 on 11:10 am
What a heartbreaking story. But also kind of happy, because at least his wife was able to make it there and he passed with his loved ones with him.
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May 14th, 2009 on 11:17 am
It’s amazing how people can “hang on” and wait for loved ones to show up to say goodbye. At least she was able to say goodbye and I’m sure that she’s very thankful for that.
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May 14th, 2009 on 1:17 pm
Sheila I am sorry for your loss, I will keep him and his family in my prayers. This post has really hit home for me, one of my best friends lost her father this past week and it has really put things into perspective for me. I have really been trying to slow down and enjoy the small things, hug my loved ones more, you know the important stuff! Thanks for sharing.
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May 14th, 2009 on 1:35 pm
Very touching post, Sheila.
I was thinking as Kelly left her 3 pizza crusts, how for many people in the world those might offer a feast.
We are all on such different paths, yes. And all going through cycles of birth, struggle, joy, sorrow, worry, laughter and death. I guess we must just be as good of people as we can and help each other.
And stop to smell the roses as often as we can.
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May 14th, 2009 on 2:49 pm
I’m sorry. I’m glad his wife and loved ones were there with him. It’s so true…you never know. Life is amazing. Thanks for the reminder.
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May 14th, 2009 on 2:54 pm
Big sigh…. I’m sorry for your loss. It’s a lovely post.
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May 14th, 2009 on 7:06 pm
Very touching. Though those times are difficult to watch, it really is necessary to wake us up every once in awhile. Life is precious and we need to take time to appreciate it.
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May 14th, 2009 on 8:48 pm
Hospice, the folks I have encounted at one locally are really nice. Knowing someone is dying while you watch is very sad, very hard and totally heartbreaking.
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May 15th, 2009 on 1:23 pm
That is so sweet and sad.
And the minutia of our lives does take over. Sometimes we all need a little wakeup call like this.
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May 19th, 2009 on 9:59 am
*sad*
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